There Ain't No Reason

Lately I've been struggling with the concept of reasoning. Why do things happen? Why don't other things happen? Am I being punished for something I did? There's those who believe in fate and others who believe you create your own destiny.

Towards the beginning of the summer I was all about taking chances. I was about making things happen. Trying to manipulate a situation. I was struggling with there being a "right" time vs a "wrong" time and not knowing which was when.

Another popular saying 'good things take time,' sums up my attitude about the situation from here-on-out. I've decided that patience is the key. There are times when we known when to act on situation but for those instances we don't know what to do, why would we act? Our uncertainty only leaves room for recklessness and damage.

I realize we don't always have time. It is poor to wait too long, because we don't have forever. If we wait too long, we simply end up with nothing. But when you're faced with a dilemma, you usually know your time frame; you know when it's too late.

Rarely do we take the time to stop and think about our actions. We don't think about the possible repercussions, about the positives and the negatives. As a country we are wrapped up in the idea 'the sooner the better,' when that's not necessarily the answer. We're always rushing from one place to the next, one idea to the next. Time is money, so the faster we move the more money we make or save. But then there is evidence that faster is not always better. That the faster we move, the more likely we are to mess up. And depending on the severity of the damage, the consequence could be great.

So if you're unsure, why rush it? If you're hesitant, sometimes it's better to play it safe than sorry.

Everyone's heard the saying "everything happens for a reason." It's weird when you think about it though, because we're always using it when we don't understand why something is happening, or not happening for that matter. And it's usually bad things or things we don't want to happen. It's like we need to justify the reason for every single occurrence. Then five years down the road when something good happens you say 'oh, so this why I didn't get that job promotion,' or 'this is why he dumped me.' We always need a reason for everything. But the reality of it is, sometimes there is no good reason. Things just happen. Sometimes they're bad, sometimes they're good, and often times they're unexplainable.

Bad things will happen in life. Sometimes explainable, sometimes they're not. But don't dwell on it too long. Time will pass. And as time passes good things will begin to come. It's all about perception. The more you focus on the bad/negative and find things to complain about, well then it will seem like your life is less satisfactory than others. But by appreciating the good and enjoying what you are given, you might be able to see things once viewed as bad in a new light.

So let's stop trying to explain everyday occurrences. We would be able to move on much more quickly if we stopped dwelling on what already happened. Just accept it for what it is and concentrate on what can be.